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What fills you up?

Everywhere I look I see people and the media encouraging me to take more time for myself, take a break from my kids, take better care of my body, or do something I love. Don’t get me wrong…these things definitely have their place and can be important. But I find myself in this busy season of having little kids, getting sucked into the idea that my life would be so much better if I had more time to decorate my house or hours to be creative or time to spend with my girlfriends or more time to take care of myself. I start thinking on those days when I’m about to pull my hair out because my boys are being so naughty that if my husband was home more to help me (like so-and-so’s husband) or if I could leave my boys for just a few hours and do something by myself I would be a much better mom. And in these days of social media it is easy for me to retreat from real life and get lost in Instagram or Pinterest or blogs. I convince myself that these are the things that will fill me up.

Those are good things, right? Time with our girlfriends can encourage us, eating right can make us feel better, having a break from our kids can be refreshing, social media can allow us to connect with people and information in amazing ways. I think where I often go wrong is when I let these “good” things take precedence over the “best” thing. I start looking for all these ways that I can be filled up and listen to the voices telling me that I need those things. And I don’t know about you but when I start packing my life with all these things that are supposed to be “good” and yet neglect what is “best” I just end the day feeling busy and tired and overwhelmed. I may have been filled up temporarily but it sure didn’t last.

So, what is best? What truly fills me up?

Time with Jesus.

Time reading and meditating on His Word. Time talking to Him. Time enjoying His presence.

The thing is…time with Jesus, well, it takes time. And often in my full days I am tempted to let this go first because I can think of a million other things to fill my time with that I argue might fill me up more. I argue that I can stay connected to Him by praying throughout the day and listening to worship music…which are good things that I need too!…but I never really stop and allow Him to speak into my life.

This summer the boys and I have been memorizing Psalm 19. I chose this passage to memorize with them because we had been talking about all the things God made and how they show how BIG God is. The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands. Psalm 19:1

But as we got down to verse seven I began realizing that I was the one that needed to hide this passage in my heart. Verse seven and following describe the life nurturing effects of God’s Word on my life:

God’s Word revives my soul.

God’s Word gives me wisdom and enlightens my eyes.

God’s Word gives joy to my heart.

I went back and read this passage in The Message and loved how it phrased the same truths:

God’s Word pulls our lives together.

God’s Word points out the right road.

God’s Word shows the way to joy.

God’s Word gives us directions that are plain and easy on the eyes.

God’s Word warns us of danger.

God’s Word directs us to hidden treasure.

Aren’t those the same things I am looking elsewhere for? I am looking for joy and wisdom and refreshment and direction…but I am looking in all the wrong places. I am so thankful that as I start to veer and my priorities get all jumbled up again (because, let’s be honest…I am so weak!) that I can fall back on these verses that I memorized with my boys this summer reminding me that God’s Word is truly what fills me up.

My prayer as we start this new month and new season is that I would choose what is BEST. That I would say no to things…even good things…that are threatening to crowd out what is important and distract me from nurturing my relationship with the Lord.

Lord, fill me up.

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  • Selena Bragg - Perfectly said. Perfectly written. I needed to read this… thank you for your example. 🙂ReplyCancel

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  • Carrie - Amen, girl! Your perspective is refreshing (and spot on!).ReplyCancel

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  • Sherri - Oh wow I was just having a similar conversation with my husband tonight. I told him that going to church for me was like recharging me. I run on my battery all week long and by Sunday it is empty. Time worshiping HIM with other believers completely fills me up for the week ahead. Everyday time spent with HIM is just partial toppers. 🙂
    HE is what I need to be fulfilled. 🙂ReplyCancel

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  • Meggie - Thanks so much for sharing this. SUCH a great reminder and so, so true.ReplyCancel

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  • Mary Ann - What fills me up is being with my family and serving the Lord. I sometimes get lost in the “thick of thin things” like all the rest of the world. I work 10-hour days (only 2 more years and I can retire if I choose) and get busy with everyday life. But when I’m with my little 3-year-old grandson, I have to slow down the pace, watch him like a hawk, focus on his needs, and just drink it all in how wonderful he is. He saved me….he came into my life just when I thought I didn’t have much to live for. I had lost my husband and both parents within a 7 month period. Then my son met his wife and they got married and had their little boy about 18 months after my husbandk passed away. What a joy that little boy is!! I love how he came into my bedroom last night (they live with me) and we talked about Thomas the Train and all his friends. He said “Love you muches and muches” and then off he was to his own bed. I also love teaching my little 4 year olds in church every Sunday. They can be a handful for sure. The Lord put us in families and groups for a reason, so we can learn to nuture, love, give, sacrifice, and experience all kinds of things….even loss, pain, and sorrow….The Lord suffered those things too so that He could understand what it was like for us when we are in that situation. You are so wise, Jess, and I surely do appreciate your focus and faith in God and his Son. Your family is growing leaps and bounds. Your boys are ever so darling. Thanks for sharing a bit of your life and your wise thoughts with us.ReplyCancel

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  • amy jupin - this post was perfectly timed just for me, jess!
    at least it feels that way.
    thank you.ReplyCancel

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  • Sue Jones - I soooo needed to read this today!! Thank you for this!!!ReplyCancel

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  • Janelle dobbins - I just listened to a sermon yesterday that my brother preached talking about being caught in the comparison trap. It was excellent and much needed.

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  • Kendra - Love this simple truth, that it is Christ who fills us for all the needs that our day brings. Especially with a little kiddo and another on the way, I tend to measure how I’m doing by how MUCH I do sometimes, rather than by WHO I spend time with prior to the day to fill my cup.ReplyCancel

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  • ranee - well said…what a great reminder.ReplyCancel

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  • Brandi Wichhart - God was truly speaking to my heart through your message. Thanks for all that you share & blog about. You are truly inspiring.ReplyCancel

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  • Tay Pegg from Australia! - This is such a perfect post, and exactly what I needed to read! I get told a lot to get away from my son and have ‘me’ time, and they are shocked when I say ‘I enjoy being around him’. Recognising God’s gift of children helps with needing solace from them. More time spent with God means less time ‘needed’ to fill up on empty carbs – I mean – empty websites and other frivolous things.

    Thank you so much Jess! I love your blog!ReplyCancel

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  • EricaG - You brought tears to my eyes today. I’ve been searching in all the wrong places. I know that, and yet the pattern continues. Thanks for the reminder.ReplyCancel

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  • Kelly - Oh Jess, yes!! Thank you for so honestly stating what is soo easy for us to do! This is me. For sure. I am excited to read the few ideas to help post next! KellyReplyCancel

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  • creole wisdom - I love this Jess. You are so very wise.

    I feel like I can relate: it’s so easy for me to get distracted and not prioritize time with the Lord. That is the most important thing and I know life goes better for me when I take that time first thing in the morning.

    For what it’s worth- coming from a single lady, I really admire women like you who are in the season of their lives with little children. It’s something I (the girl who spends lots of time trying to eat healthy, exercise and hanging with girlfriends) look up to. Your work raising up those boys to be men of God is so very important.

    What I love about our faith is that each day we can start over and do better. That’s what grace is all about.

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  • katygirl - hi jess. i hope i get to meet you sometime. xo.ReplyCancel

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  • Jenny - Like many of the commenters above, I really needed to read this today. I have been praying for a deeper relationship with God and I can hear him for the first time in a long while. He is calling me to focus on him and how to better my faith. It has been a bumpy journey thus far but the light at the end if the tunnel is so bright and inviting. I can relate to thinking girl time, adult time, craft time, and pampering time is deserved after a long day raising a toddler. I often tell myself Pinterest is “filling my cup” making me a better cook, social friend, and crafty mom. But your post reminds me that there is a much better way to spend my time during my sons nap & that I need to use my time more wisely. I’ve been looking for that full cup in all the wrong places and yet I’m so thirsty. Thank you so much.ReplyCancel

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One more post on The Promised One. This is a good one (I can say that because I didn’t write it!) and you will want to keep reading even if you didn’t do the study with us. I have been so sad that this study is over…I am missing it! If you are still finishing up I would love to hear what God has been teaching you. Go back and leave a comment if you have a chance!

There were so many “new” things to me as I did this study on Genesis and truthfully, I am still struggling through a few of those things. The idea of God “choosing” people has been one of them. This was not really a new idea to me but an idea I have continually struggled with because, quite honestly, it doesn’t seem fair and makes me a little uncomfortable. I was so thankful that Nancy agreed to address this struggle that many of us have with God sovereignly choosing people even as we see it all the way through Genesis in the lives of Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Judah and throughout the rest of Scripture. After reading Nancy’s thoughts I was challenged to look past my own preferences of what I am comfortable with about God. Because the truth is I am more comfortable with a god that fits into my definition of good and fair. But, like Nancy said, I want a God who is bigger than me and my ideas, not a god I can control. I still feel like this is something I am struggling through but it is pressing me to expect God to continue revealing Himself to me as I continue to study His Word. I pray that you too would be challenged to continue studying the Bible, looking for who God is and how He works.

It is such a privilege to have you here, Nancy. Thanks so much for sharing with us!

As I’ve read some of your comments along the way of studying The Promised One, I see that’ you’ve had some “I-never-saw-that-before” moments. I had those too, so it is fun to me to share them with you. I’ve also seen that you have struggled with the idea of God “choosing” people. You wouldn’t be the first to struggle with this. And I promise you that when the idea was first introduced to me I struggled with it too. I remember the day and where I was sitting when a Sunday School teacher pointed out that when God chose Abraham, Abraham was a pagan idol worshiper who was not looking for or listening for God and had done nothing to make him worthy of God choosing him. And yet God chose him and called him and made incredible promises to him. That opened me up to the idea of God being the one who chooses who will be his, and from there I began to see God initiating and choosing everywhere I looked in the scripture and became convinced. I hope that might happen for you. God got bigger in my estimation and man got smaller.

In this study of Genesis we’ve seen God’s sovereign choosing not only in Noah, but in God’s choosing of Abraham, Isaac over Ishmael, Jacob over Esau (which becomes a repeated theme throughout the Bible illustrating God’s choosing), and Judah over his older brothers to be the ruling tribe. If we were to continue to work out way through the Bible (and I hope you will consider moving forward with the next study in the series, The Lamb of God: Seeing Jesus in Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy), we would continue to see this divine choosing of who will be his. In Deuteronomy 7, Moses tells the family, which has become a nation, “The Lord your God has chosen you to be a people for his treasured possession, out of all the peoples who are on the face of the earth. It was not because you were more in number than any other people that he Lord set his love on you and chose you, for you were the fewest of all people, but it is because the Lord loves you and is keeping the oath that he sore to your fathers . . .” When we come to the New Testament we hear Jesus say, “No man can come to me unless it is given to him by the Father.” God sovereignly and graciously gives the desire for Christ to those whom he calls out of the world. The difficulty and the great mystery is that apparently he doesn’t do that for everyone. He reserves the right to have mercy upon whom he will have mercy. That is to say, God doesn’t treat everyone the same, yet he never treats anyone unjustly. Some receive justice and some receive mercy, and God reserves the right eternally to give his executive clemency, if you will, to those whom he chooses.

Perhaps one reason we have a hard time with this idea of God choosing some for salvation is that if we’re around the church for very long we are pressed over and over again to choose Christ. And choose him we must! However, the deeper reality is that we are only able to choose him because he has first chosen us. We would like to think that we are smart enough, spiritually inclined enough, that we would have chosen him on our own, but that ignores the reality that we are born spiritually dead—not just sickly but dead. Dead people have no ability to choose or reach out for help. So if you have been made alive together with Christ, it is because God chose you before you were born and determined that he would make you alive by uniting you to Christ who is alive forever. Just like the Lord chose to set his love on Noah and Abraham and Isaac and Jacob, so God chose to set his love on you—based solely on his sovereign good pleasure. That’s grace—getting what you don’t deserve and can’t earn.

But this still hits some of us as unfair. We think that if God grants grace to some, then He must grant the same measure of grace to all if He is fair and just. Here we must stop for a moment and ask why this should be so. Why does the granting of grace to some require the granting of grace to all? But I suppose the deeper issue for each of us is this: Have you come to place that you are willing to accept what the Bible presents to you about who God is and how he works even if it doesn’t fit with what you think a loving caring God ought to be? Or are you only willing to love and worship a God who fits into your definition of what God ought to be and what he ought to do?

Don’t you want a God who is bigger than you, a God who can contradict you? Or do you want a god that you can control, a god who completely fits within your preferences? Do you want a God who lovingly and graciously sweeps you into his grand plan for his created world, or do you want a god who waits around to be invited into plans for your life? You see this is the beauty and necessity of studying the Bible—that more and more we would worship God rightly because more and more we are worshiping the true God and not the God of our own making. This is also the joy and privilege of coming to the Bible expecting that God will reveal himself to us more and more clearly—he shows himself to us, the Holy Spirit helps us to understand, and we increasingly become less interested in using God to get the life we want, less oriented toward reading the Bible to figure out what we’re supposed to do, and instead become more interested in submitting to what God wants, and more grateful for what God has done for us through Christ.

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Nancy Guthrie is the author of numerous books, including the five-book Seeing Jesus in the Old Testament Bible study series. Visit Nancy’s website to find out more about her books, speaking schedule, Respite Retreats, and Bible studies.

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  • Debi - I love the way she explains this difficult concept. It doesn’t make us “better” than others and in no way does being chosen diminish the fact that we are still called to love everyone and preach the gospel to everyone. I remember when I first struggled with this idea of God choosing and the seemingly unfairness of it my pastor so gently and so graciously explained that if I was so adamant about God being fair than I and everyone else deserved punishment, b/c what is truly fair is that He saves none. God is in fact UNFAIR to save any at all. Wow. Mind blowing to put it that way. How thankful I am that God chooses to give grace and mercy when it is completely undeserved!! Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for doing this study on your blog. Tomorrow I will begin leading this study with two of my friends who are believers but currently either do not attend church, or have never done a bible study! I am nervous, but also excited! Thank you.ReplyCancel

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  • Jody - And then you look at others God has chosen. People like Paul, a thorn in the side of Christianity until God selected him. Or Kirk Cameron in modern times, a non-believer who is completely on fire for God and who’s passion lies in evangelism. It really is amazing what can happen when God gets ahold if someone.ReplyCancel

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  • Mary Ann - I think the most beautiful thing about God is that he knows us individually. In all his omnipitance, he knows us….he knows me. Anyone can change and feel the Love of God. I’m so glad I know Him and know that he cares about me. Everything I’ve experienced, good and not so good, doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me or doesn’t care. He simply allows some things to happen even if it doesn’t seem fair. All he wants is our faith and trust, our obediance and love. I am glad Jess is sharing these lessons. In our busy lives, it is easy to forget what is important. I know that without my faith in God, life would way too hard, way too easy to go another way. Thanks for sharing Jess and thank you for being you.ReplyCancel

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  • Sarah - Ahh, Nancy, once again you’ve taken the knots of confusion in my head and untangled them so easily and gently. Thanks for sharing your gift of communication with us. So thankful for you! I’ve so enjoyed this book, mostly because of how deeply I got to study Scripture. My pages of Genesis are now wrinkly thanks to all my flipping. 🙂ReplyCancel

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Thank you all for your sweet comments about “kindergarten day“. We appreciate your prayers and encouragement so much. Now before August is over I thought I should post my Instagram collage for July. 🙂

You can check out the past months here:

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I am @jessmcclenahan on Instagram if you want to follow along!

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The winner of the two lunchboxes from Sarah + Abraham is…

Lindy GreggOh, my girls would love these! They’re ages 5 and 6 and love it when things come in their favorite colors–one blue and one pink. So, I think we’d choose the owls, one in blue and one in pink. But you never know, my woodsy girl might surprise me and go for the frog! These are darling!

Congratulations Lindy! I hope your girls love their new lunchboxes. Send me an email and I will let you know how to claim your prize!

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  • Lacie Hutchins - Just thought I would mention that Sarah and Abraham is on Zulily right now!!!!!!!!ReplyCancel

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